From our lovely contributors at This Mom S**t is HARD! See how one mom discovers the secret to connecting with her kiddos.

My boys have always been Momma’s boys but that doesn’t mean connecting with my kids is easy. And as they get older it seems connecting with my kids in meaningful ways has, sadly, only gotten harder.  So, this year, one of my many resolutions is to find new ways of connecting with my kids.

But how?

Mom connecting with child by hugging

A friend of mine from work turned me onto the 5 Love Languages a few years ago and it’s really stuck with me. If you don’t know the 5 Love Languages, go research it – seriously, it’s life-changing. The premise, there are five ways of expressing love: gifts, words of affirmation, acts of service, quality time and touch. Most of us feel love predominantly in one of these five ways and as a result, show love in that same way. But oftentimes, our spouses and kids have their own love language, one that’s different from your own, so they may not feel love in the way you give it…and vice versa leaving both sides confused. But, figure out how to speak your spouse or your child’s love language – voila, all is right in the universe. Or at least closer.

Not sure why it took me this long to figure this one out with my kids, but it did. Seems like now was the perfect time to finally figure out my kids’ love language.

Mission connecting with my kids commence. Step one, have kids take the  5 Love Language quiz. It wasn’t without a bit of struggle to get this done, but finally they both gave in and took the quiz. And the results were eye-opening….

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